5 things I learned this year

Hello from San Francisco!

Wednesday was my birthday. I figured it was fitting to post an all white look today. Aren’t birthdays a way to start fresh? I wanted to share my quick learnings this past year for this post, and hope some of them will be helpful for you too!

Lesson #1: Everything starts small.
One of the best advice I received about blogging was to just to start and not worry about making it perfect. Everyone needs to start from somewhere. Last year this time, I didn’t know anything about blogging. Yet 50+ posts later, here we are.

I challenge everyone around me to pick up something other than their 9-5. A side project, anything really. You never know where it could take you.

Lesson #2 Read.
When I was a kid, all I did was to read. In a way, it helped me get to where I am now. I learned to hustle, dream and love. I even was told I was too much of a dreamer. Now I know I’d never get here without those books or dreams.

One thing to help is to set reading goals. Pick a book, one of the classics or a book on mindfulness. Try to choose something productive really. Also, check out your local library. Here’s a post I did on SF library.

Lesson #3: Love requires work.
I feel so lucky to have someone like Abel in my life. But it took so long for us to get to where we are. All relationships require lots and lots of work. Nothing is like what’s in the movies. If you love someone, you compromise and it’s worth it!

During our first part of our relationship, Abel was building his startup. So I was his anchor. Now I’m working on my Fashion Mews, and I couldn’t have asked for a better partner to be on my side. 🙂

Top: Topshop // Shorts: One Teaspoon // Shoes: Adidas // Bag: Alexander Wang // Hat: Janessa Leone

Lesson #4: Meditate.
When I had a regular job, especially during my startup days, I dealt with extreme amounts of stress. So did Abel. I remember we used to be a lot meaner to each other. Even if we didn’t mean to.

2 months ago we started meditating. We’ve been a lot calmer and nicer people since we’ve been practicing mediation. I feel more productive too. If you’re interested in meditation and want to explore more, here are some meditation app suggestions.

Lesson #5: It’s okay to spend time alone.
I used to want to be around people all the time. Now I spend a good chunk of my time on my own, with Abel and/or our cat Ramen.

If you want to create anything, you need to learn to be by yourself. There are other perks of being alone too. You can be more productive and self reliant. And it’s the perfect time to reflect & think! I like to go on sprints, check in with my circle of friends on a regular basis, and then disappear for awhile to recharge. Like Abel says, it’s good to balance both. 🙂

Thank you for reading, wishing everyone an amazing weekend!

xx Melis

8 thoughts on “5 things I learned this year

  1. Heather Yesko says:

    Great post! And great learnings – I agree with them all 🙂 Is there a particular meditation app or technique that you personally use consistently? One you like above the rest? I tend to bounce all around the place with meditation, but always love hearing about and trying methods that are recommended by friends!

    • Hey Heather,

      Sorry for the delayed response – vacation! We’ve been using Headspace and really liking it so far. 🙂 Here’s a link for the download. Have a great week!

      xx Melis

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